I read Dinosaurs Divorce and I think it’s a good resource for preschool/early elementary school kids. I read this book, “What Can I Do? A Book for Children of Divorce” [affiliate link] because I wanted a resource for kids who are a little older. The book recommends itself for Ages 8-12, and I think that’s about right.
The child in this book, Rosie, learns her parents are getting divorced, and naturally she is very upset. She tries a number of different solutions on her own, in an effort to keep her parents together. I think her trial-and-error process is very relatable for a kid reading the book, and I think the emotions she goes through when her solutions don’t work are probably very much what a reader in a similar situation would feel.
What ultimately helps Rosie is her engagement with her school counselor, who ultimately also connects her with other kids going through the same thing. Rosie has to grieve and work through her feelings, which she does. The author, Danielle Lowry, is herself a school counselor, so her perspective is a natural one, but I think you could substitute “therapist” or even “minister” for “school counselor” in this story and it could work out the same way.
Not directly addressed, but underscored by the story, is that Rosie’s parents are apparently effective co-parents. The book does not address their specific problems – no doubt an intentional choice, to make the story as broadly relatable as possible. But whatever the cause of the divorce, they are still able to co-parent effectively for Rosie’s sake, which is critical for kids going through a divorce. I would hope parents reading this with their children would pick up on how important that is.
Good book, that I would recommend highly for kids in elementary or middle school. What do you think?