Your Post-Divorce Compass
Practical, Real-World Advice for the Newly Single
From the book’s forward:
I wrote this book because it needed to be written.
I have been practicing domestic relations, or “family”, law, for more than a decade. The overwhelming majority of these cases end as uncontested cases. The end – as in, the very end, when the divorce decree is signed by the judge and filed with the clerk – is always very anti-climactic to me, and usually to my client, as well. There is no music, no fireworks, no fanfare. Usually it’s just my client and me. The only celebration is often me awkwardly congratulating my client.
Soon enough, of course, my client is on her own. My job, which was to have her divorce finalized, is over and done. But I can’t help but think her next thought must be, “now what?”
This straight-forward book is my attempt to answer that question. It is based around a checklist – everything you should be thinking about at some point in making sure your post-divorce life is in order.
Of course, the list is not a simple list. While some of the advice I give you can be quickly and easily followed, there are also a number of tasks that are fairly daunting and will take some time.
The key, though, is to approach the list systematically and deliberately. You won’t take on any more than one task per day. You don’t have to do it all at once, and frankly you shouldn’t try. If you do, you may find yourself overwhelmed. Part of the purpose of this book is to prevent that from happening.
To that end, every single item on the list has been given a dedicated chapter, with specific instructions and practical advice. In most cases, the chapters have been supplemented on this site. Not all of them will apply – indeed, some tasks can be skipped entirely. But it is easily digestible, enabling you to quickly review it and determine for yourself exactly what you need to do. The key is to just keep moving through it.
I hope you find this useful and will buy the book and see for yourself. Or if you already have the book, if you wouldn’t mind heading over to the Amazon.com page and leaving a review, that would be a huge help.
“Your Post-Divorce Compass: Practical, Real-World Advice for the Newly Single” is a comprehensive workbook designed to help someone who is recently divorced sort out “everyday life” issues like updating insurance beneficiaries, automating finances, and hiring the right financial advisors. Written by a family lawyer with over a decade of experience, this book complements the many excellent resources which exist for helping divorcees deal with their emotional and spiritual crises by methodically guiding the reader through a host of financial matters. The book’s unique, “one task per day” mentality also empowers the reader by turning a complex mass of problems into a manageable group of tasks.
The book’s author, Michael R. Dunham, Esq., graduated from Emory University School of Law in 2002 and has been a practicing trial lawyer in the Metro Atlanta area ever since. Family law has always been a big part of Mike’s practice. Throughout his career, Mike has helped hundreds of people through their divorce cases, and now through this book, Mike looks forward to being able to help them after the dust settles.
You can find out more about Mike here.
NOTE: These are all coming soon; as they become available, the following will change from static text to hyperlinks.
|Form:||Income Deduction Order (“IDO”)||DOCX||ODT||TXT|
|Form:||Cover Letter to Send IDO to Judge||DOCX||ODT||TXT|
|Form:||Notice Letter to Employer||DOCX||ODT||TXT|
|Form:||Qualified Domestic Relations Order (“QDRO”)||DOCX||ODT||TXT|
|Form:||Cover Letter to Send QDRO to Judge||DOCX||ODT||TXT|
|Form:||Letter to Former Spouse Requesting
Proof of Life Insurance Coverage
Children Going Through Divorce – Recommended Reading
- The Invisible String by Patrice Karst (2000) – ages 3 and up
- Dinosaurs Divorce by Laurene Krasny Brown and Marc Brown (1988) – ages 3-7
- It’s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear by Vicky Lansky (1997) – ages 3-7
- Two Homes by Claire Masurel (2003) – ages 3-7
- My Family’s Changing by Pat Thomas (1999) – ages 4 and up
- The Family Book by Todd Parr (2010) – ages 4-6
- Let’s Talk About It: Divorce by Fred Rogers (1998) – ages 4-8
- Was it the Chocolate Pudding? by Sandra Levins and Bryan Langdo (2005) – ages 4-8
- Mama and Daddy Bear’s Divorce by Cornelia Maude Spelman (1998) – ages 4-8
- I Don’t Want to Talk About It by Jeanie Franz Ransom (2000) – ages 5 and up
- At Daddy’s on Saturdays by Linda Walvoord Girard (1987) – ages 5-8
- Loon Summer by Barbara Santucci (2010) – ages 5-9
- Divorced But Still My Parents by Shirley Thomas (1997) – ages 6 and up
- What Can I Do? A Book for Children of Divorce by Danielle Lowry (2002) – ages 8 and up
- How It Feels When Parents Divorce by Jill Krementz (1988) – ages 8 and up
- A Smart Girl’s Guide to Her Parent’s Divorce by Nancy Holyoke (2009) – ages 8 and up
- Dear Mr. Henshaw by Beverly Cleary (2000) – ages 8-12
- It’s Not the End of the World by Judy Blume (2002) – ages 8-12
- Divorce Is Not the End of the World by Zoe and Evan Stern (2008) – ages 8-15
- Don’t Fall Apart on Saturdays! by Adolph Moser (2000) – ages 9 and up
- Rope Burn by Jan Siebold (2012) – ages 9-12
- Now What Do I Do? by Lynn Cassella-Kapusinki (2006) – ages 10-17
- Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids by Isolina Ricci (2006) – ages 11 and up
- Gateway by Lee Robinson (1996) – ages 12 and up
- The Divorce Express by Paula Danzinger (2007) – ages 13 and up
- Loveless by Victoria Reyes (2013) – ages 13 and up
- The Divorce Helpbook for Teens by Cynthia MacGregor (2004) – ages 14-18
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