When is the Divorce Really “Over”?

[Ed: Originally published on Facebook.] As any divorced parent will tell you, the divorce really never feels “final” until the kids are all grown up. Until that happens, issues can come up all the time. Many parents are able to work through those issues on their own, but sometimes court involvement is needed. Deciding when to…

Helping Your Homeless Former Spouse

[Ed: Originally published on Facebook.] I had a former client approach me with a somewhat unusual situation: her ex-husband was kicked out of his apartment and had nowhere to go. She knows it’s not her problem, but at the same time she felt some pity for him, and besides she certainly doesn’t want their children’s father…

What is a “Meretricious” Relationship, and Why Do I Care?

[Ed: Originally published on Facebook.] “Your Post-Divorce Compass” doesn’t tell you anything about dating or your social life after divorce. But if you receive alimony, you should be careful about just how far your new dating relationship might go. Most people know alimony goes away if the recipient remarries, but you may not know that alimony…

Going Off-Topic…

[Ed: Originally published on Facebook.] I am an attorney who has been handling ‪#‎divorce‬ and ‪#‎familylaw‬ cases for years, and I always like to give practical advice when I can. I wrote “Your Post-Divorce Compass” because I wanted to distill some of that advice into a practical roadmap that I think a lot of people can use. But there are…

Review: “Howard”

[Ed: Originally published on Facebook.] We wanted to share a review from “Howard”, a CPA/JD/RIA who calls the book a “must read for the newly divorced or those contemplating divorce”: “Throughout my career as a CPA providing litigation support for domestic relations issues I never had a tool like this to provide to clients. It is…

Who’s On Your Team?

[Ed: Originally published on Facebook.] Who’s on your team? If you or someone you know have been through a divorce, then hopefully at a minimum you’ve had a lawyer on your team. You may also have a CPA/accountant, a financial planner, a counselor, a professional organizer, an insurance agent. You may even be involved in a…

Support Through Counseling

[Ed: Originally published on Facebook.] Are you or someone you know unwilling to try counseling because it’s too “new age” or “touchy-feely”? Or maybe you think a counselor’s role is to judge you, or to tell you how crazy you are, or to make you take pills that have all kinds of scary side effects. The…

Support Through Religion

[Ed: Originally published on Facebook.] It’s a touchy subject, but many major religions – including Judaism, Islam, and all forms of Christianity – recognize that divorce happens even though God’s plan is for lifelong marriage, and they all provide a path for divorced persons to return to the faith. If you or someone you know is…

Support People, Not Things

[Ed: Originally published on Facebook.] I recently had a friend tell me that while he was proud of my accomplishments, he couldn’t support “Your Post-Divorce Compass” because he “couldn’t support divorce”. I understand that sentiment completely. But there is a difference between “supporting divorce” and supporting someone who has gone through a divorce. If you know…

Review: “Tom”

[Ed: Originally published on Facebook.] We wanted to share a review from “Tom”, a financial expert who thinks the book can be helpful for someone who may not have much financial experience: “Mike Dunham has taken his extensive experience in family law and delivered a practical roadmap for the newly divorced. The book is organized into…